Okay, so I started working again. I like it so far. Very quiet office, lots to read. But the hours are killing me. I actually LIKE getting up early. 6 AM rolls around and I hit snooze twice and pop into the shower. I got to nurse beanie this morning (yesterday she noticed I was missing around 7:30 and I was so scared I'd hit traffic while I nursed her on the couch, both nunus.) But today she snacked between snooze alarms and I got both nunus emptied before my wake up completely shower.
I like that.
What I don't like: now that I'm working, I'm seriously exhausted by 10 PM. I had to force myself to watch L&O SVU last night. I wanted to go to bed, but I couldn't because the Beanie was full of piss and vinegar. Well, not really piss and vinegar, but the happier equivalent; she was squealing with joy and touching my face and patting my nunus and saying "nigh nigh nigh" over and over again and kicking me with her little duck paddle feet. Which is what she does when she wants to play. So I had to get her dad in there to take her from me so that I could fall asleep. Even though she nods off in my arms during TV time, she's bound to wake up if I transfer her to the bed and brush my teeth. If it's late enough I can crawl in next to her and she will nurse a few sucks and sigh and completely fall asleep. Nice for me when that happens, and that's been our MO all this time. Except that happens around 11 or 12, not 10. And Ten PM is now when my body collapses under its own weight.
I despise the Ferber method, even though I've never tried it. I heard someone say that he discredited himself recently on Dr. Phil or something, but I can't find any mention of it on Google. And so...
I'm thinking about trying it.
I never thought it would come to this. Letting my baby scream.
PF will freak out if she's screaming longer than 3 minutes. I don't know if we can actually do this...
We'll have to talk about it.
Actually, having him take her from me after I've nursed her and she's not ready to crash worked just fine. He put her to bed with me when she was really out and I remember vaguely that he eventually came to bed after Leno. But only vaguely...
~Beanie's Workin' Maman
I like that.
What I don't like: now that I'm working, I'm seriously exhausted by 10 PM. I had to force myself to watch L&O SVU last night. I wanted to go to bed, but I couldn't because the Beanie was full of piss and vinegar. Well, not really piss and vinegar, but the happier equivalent; she was squealing with joy and touching my face and patting my nunus and saying "nigh nigh nigh" over and over again and kicking me with her little duck paddle feet. Which is what she does when she wants to play. So I had to get her dad in there to take her from me so that I could fall asleep. Even though she nods off in my arms during TV time, she's bound to wake up if I transfer her to the bed and brush my teeth. If it's late enough I can crawl in next to her and she will nurse a few sucks and sigh and completely fall asleep. Nice for me when that happens, and that's been our MO all this time. Except that happens around 11 or 12, not 10. And Ten PM is now when my body collapses under its own weight.
I despise the Ferber method, even though I've never tried it. I heard someone say that he discredited himself recently on Dr. Phil or something, but I can't find any mention of it on Google. And so...
I'm thinking about trying it.
I never thought it would come to this. Letting my baby scream.
PF will freak out if she's screaming longer than 3 minutes. I don't know if we can actually do this...
We'll have to talk about it.
Actually, having him take her from me after I've nursed her and she's not ready to crash worked just fine. He put her to bed with me when she was really out and I remember vaguely that he eventually came to bed after Leno. But only vaguely...
~Beanie's Workin' Maman
posted by A P M @ 8:37 AM
5 Comments:
At 10:11 AM,
lisa ninja said…
I really think she's too young for the Ferber method. You do know, when you're "ferberizing" (sounds horrible) that you do go in and calm them down? Also, I don't think it will work very well if you are co-sleeping or sleeping in the same room.
At 10:29 AM,
A P M said…
yeah, we are getting a crib next month and are going to transition her slowly into her own room/crib. I want it done before 9 months because I hear it's a nightmare otherwise.
Personally, I'm okay with her sleeping bed with us, but if you get a crib, you should probably use it. I think she might start rolling around soon, so it would definitely be safer. What's your opinion on that, do you think it's smart? Or if I'm comfy with cosleeping, should I just keep with it? I have not had sex in ages, by the way. Not that you need to know that...
At 12:47 PM,
lisa ninja said…
I totally think it's up to the mommy. It might be easier for you to get the transistion over with earlier than later, but I really think whatever you guys are comfortable with is what's best. Beanie will do great either way.
Personally, I couldn't sleep with a baby in the bed. I kept them in a bassinet next to the bed early on. Roan was there for 6 months and she let me know when it was time to move to the crib (would cry in bassinet, be fine in the crib in a room by herself). Sage got her bassinet moved into the hallway just outside our bedroom after a couple months so I could sleep better and she moved in with Roan sometime after that. Is it horrible I can't remember exactly when? She has her big sister to keep her company, so it worked out pretty well.
When we had to do the CIO with Roan she was around 9 or 10 months. It was a last resort when she wouldn't even go to sleep if we held her and rocked her (I was willing to do that if it worked).
We only had to CIO for a couple of days. And we did the thing where she would cry for a couple minutes, we'd go in and talk to her (no picking up) then leave and go back in after 5 minutes (if crying) and progressively take longer breaks before going in. I think there's also a method where you sit by the crib as they fall asleep (not giving them attention) and then move farther away from the crib each night until you're out of the room. I think I saw something like that on Supernanny or some dumb show.
Okay, longest comment ever!
At 1:45 PM,
A P M said…
I saw the same show!!! The only supernanny I ever catch is the one about the plumber's wife who can't get her younger son to sleep...I almost have their names memorized!
I totally sleep curled around the beanie no problem, and she is starting to stir when my alarm goes off, so I now set it about 20 minutes earlier and bf her between snooze alarms. She's so easy.
But I know it can't last and am just wondering if I'm missing prime time to get her situated in her own bedroom just because I love to cuddle with her so much...
At 1:46 PM,
A P M said…
oh, and Lisa, I may be bugging you for assistance on the sleeping thing later on for sure...
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